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The Third Arrow: When Self-Shame Makes Everything Worse
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#354: You know that feeling when your mom rearranges the table you just set, or your uncle makes that comment about your career, and suddenly you're spiraling?
That's the first arrow - the hurt. The second arrow is all the stories your mind creates about how “she always does this” or “nothing I do is right.” But there's a third arrow that I haven't found anyone really talking about, and it's the most damaging one.
Join me this week to discover how to recognize the third arrow when it shows up. You'll learn specific remedies you can use right now when that shame spiral starts, including how to name it, change your nervous system state before trying to change your thoughts, and talk to yourself like someone you love. Because once you see the third arrow, you can't unsee it. And that awareness gives you a choice you didn't have before.
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