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Why Your Fix-It Instinct Is Costing You Connection With Your LGBTQ Child and What to Do Instead
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Are you constantly jumping in with advice only to feel more disconnected from the people you love?
Whether you're navigating hard conversations with your LGBTQ+ teen or sitting down at a tense holiday dinner, the urge to "fix" is often fear in disguise. In this calming and powerful solo episode, Heather Hester unpacks why real connection doesn’t come from solving but from seeing.
✔️ Learn a simple, science-backed practice to shift from reactivity to presence
✔️ Discover how to listen without rushing, rescuing, or retreating
✔️ Use Heather’s LISTEN method to guide any difficult conversation with love
✔️ Get grounded tools to calm your nervous system when tensions rise
Press play now to discover the one shift that builds trust, deepens relationships, and reclaims connection, no fixing required.
LISTEN Framework Recap:
- L – Leave space: Breathe before responding
- I – Inquire gently: Ask what kind of support is needed
- S – Stay curious: Reflect, don’t assume
- T – Trust the silence: Let quiet be part of connection
- E – Empathize, don’t evaluate: Say “That sounds really hard”
- N – Normalize not knowing: “I don’t have the answer, but I’m here.”
Hi, I’m Heather Hester, and I’m so glad you’re here!
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At the heart of my work is a deep commitment to compassion, authenticity, and transformative allyship, especially for those navigating the complexities of parenting LGBTQ kids. Through this podcast, speaking, my writing, and the spaces I create, I help people unlearn bias, embrace their full humanity, and grow their capacity for courageous connection.
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More Human. More Kind. formerly Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen is a safe and supportive podcast in a heartfelt and empowering space where a mom and advocate offers the wisdom of lived experience and pr