Podcast Episode Details

Are Dirty Vanillas A Swingers Lifestyle Epidemic?

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Episode 208

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Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories
EP208 – Are Dirty Vanillas a Swingers Lifestyle Epidemic? (Sexy Parties vs Swinger Parties)
Bonus Episode: HotTakes with Wanderlust Swingers

Are “dirty vanillas” ruining swinger parties… or are we just old and grumpy?

In this HotTakes bonus episode, we unpack the rise of sexy parties vs swinger parties — couples who love the lingerie, lights, drugs and dance floor, but have zero intention of swapping or playing. From empty playrooms at Dutch “takeovers” to US events that feel more MDMA than moaning, we ask: is this evolution, dilution, or just a different lane of fun?

• Dirty Vanilla 101: what the term actually means (monogamous couples who love the vibe, flirting, lingerie, but don’t play) and why it’s often used as a slur in the lifestyle.
• Marketing or Epidemic? Swinger events advertised as “dance parties” on TikTok/IG and “swinger parties” on dating sites – who’s actually to blame: the crowd, or the promoters?
• Sexy Parties vs Swinger Parties: Dutch club takeovers, 1200-person Amsterdam “swinger” events with no licensed playrooms, and the fetish / dirty vanilla / swinger mash-up that pleases no one.
• Are we the problem? Cate & Darrell realise their expectations were stuck in “old school swinger” mode while the culture has shifted under their feet.
• Listener Q – Tim: “We’re exclusive. Can we go to a swingers club just for the vibe?” Cate’s nuanced yes, Darrell’s “please do!” and why intention + contribution matters more than labels.

We wrap by asking the big question: are dirty vanillas a lifestyle epidemic… or is this just what evolution looks like in a more fluid, less-stigmatized, sex-positive world?

Coming Up Next
EP209 - Halloween weekend in London, MFMs, costumes, and chaos: stories from the playroom and beyond.

 

Useful Links from this Episode
Libertine Events – 2026 takeovers (Miami, Scottsdale, France): https://libertineevents.com/
Patreon – BTS outfits, bonus audio & polls: https://www.patreon.com/SwingingDownunder
Wanderlust Swingers Website: https://wanderlustswingers.com/
Join SDC – Meet other swingers in your area: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=32122

 

Swinger Podcast, Dirty Vanilla, Sexy Parties vs Swinger Parties, Lifestyle Event Politics, Swinger Clubs Europe, Non-Monogamy Tips, Hotwife Podcast, Sex-Positive Events, Consent & Drugs in the Lifestyle, Fetish vs Swinger Culture, Hotel Takeovers, Lifestyle Travel, Libertine Events

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