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Too tired or busy for sex? You’re not alone. Today’s expert explains why it’s not about libido — and how to rebuild desire, compatibility, and orgasmic intimacy in bed again.

If you’re wondering why you don’t orgasm more, or if you and your partner are actually sexually compatible, you’re in for a juicy and legitimately helpful deep dive with TikTok’s #1 sex educator, Dr. Tara.

Dr. Tara is a certified sexologist, award-winning researcher, tenured professor of relational and sexual communication, TV host, radio host, a coach and the Internet’s Resident Sex Expert. She’s the host of Luvbites Podcast that focuses on sexual wellness and sexploration, and she just released her new book, How Do You Like It? A Guide for Getting What You Want (in Bed).

In this episode, we talk about why your sex life might feel “off” (hint: it’s not just about libido), how to stay present during intimacy, and the science behind different types of orgasms — plus Dr. Tara’s practical advice for rebuilding desire and navigating the performance anxiety and everyday stress that can get in the way of sex.

Tune in to learn about:

✅ How to figure out your “Sexual Profile” and what it reveals about compatibility
✅ What to do when your libido or sex drive doesn’t match your partner’s
✅ How stress, hormones, and mental health impact desire
✅ Ways to initiate intimacy when you’re both exhausted
✅ How to stay present during sex and overcome performance anxiety
✅ The different types of orgasms — and how to know if you’ve had one
✅ Go-to sex positions and erogenous zones for better pleasure
✅ How to keep long-term sex and desire exciting

Take the Sexual Profile Quiz: https://www.luvbites.co/quizzes/whats-your-sexual-profile

Follow Dr. Tara on TikTok and Instagram

Get Dr. Tara’s new book, How Do You Like It

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• Teach Me How To Own My Orgasms and Pleasure, with Sex Coach Portia Brown

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