Episode Details

Doug unpacks the difference between love and emotional connection. He shares what love is and how to reignite the emotional connection in your marriage through asking open ended questions, showing appreciation, and making a bids for connection.

Listener questions and comments:

• Suzie - How do I respond to a husband who says 'I'm a guy and I don’t talk about that', and he shuts down. What do I say to him? (40:57)

Building a strong emotional connection

1. Ask open-ended questions
2. Show appreciation
3. Make bids for connection

Recipe for success

1. Know your spouse’s inner world
2. Ask your spouse questions inviting them to be vulnerable
3. Notice the positive and let your spouse know
4. Look at your spouse when they make a bid for connection
5. Make and respond to lots of bids for connection