Clean Up Your Side of the Fence: A Guide to Honest Conversations

Episode 17

Do you have people in your life with unfinished conversations, unspoken gratitude, or lingering resentment? In this episode, Rhonda Britten invites you to create your communication list—a gentle, practical step toward clearing the air and finding profound peace within your relationships and yourself.

Today, I want to talk about your communication list—those names and faces that tug at your heart, stir up worry, or trigger a pang of guilt or anger. So often, we carry unspoken words, unresolved hurts, and wishes left in silence. These unsaid things are heavy and keep us from feeling truly at peace.

With warmth and compassion, I walk you through the process of writing your communication list, exploring what’s unsaid, and inviting you to own your responsibility in every relationship. You’ll learn how true clarity comes not just from speaking your truth, but from understanding your heart, cleaning up your side of the fence, and deciding what needs to be voiced or simply processed within.

Whether you choose to write, speak, burn, or release those words, you are doing this work to save yourself. You’re reclaiming peace, freeing your energy, and opening your heart—before bitterness or regret can close it for good.

What You’ll Discover

How to spot unresolved relationships—those “ugh” or “ah” feelings in your heart
A gentle, structured way to create your communication list (who, what’s unsaid, what’s your responsibility, what’s theirs, and what action you’ll take)
Why true peace starts with clearing up your side of the fence—before reaching out or letting go
Powerful options for communicating, from requests to silent rituals, and how to decide which is right for you
How self-honesty and personal responsibility transform anxiety into acceptance and freedom

Key Takeaway

Bringing honesty to your unsaid conversations—by writing a communication list and taking ownership of your part—can release deep stress and open the door to real healing. The process begins with you, not with them.

Key Quote

“Own what you’re not saying, to who, and why you’re not saying it. Clean up your side of the fence first, before deciding what you want to do or say with the other person.”

Resources / Mentions

Journal Prompt: Who’s on your communication list? For each person, write their name, what’s unsaid, your responsibility, their responsibility, and the action (or ritual) you’ll choose.
Learn More: Explore the “Getting Your Needs Met” course for deeper communication skills (https://fli.world/GYNM)

Invitation

Start your communication list today. Write, reflect, and notice how each unsaid word affects your peace.

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