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This Therapist Taught Me How to Go from Hot Mess to Girlfriend of the Year
Shownotes
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Terry's "grid" that reveals how your trauma shows up in relationships
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The difference between individual empowerment and relational empowerment
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Which quadrant of the grid Layla is on and how she got there
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Why Terry calls our relationships our "biosphere"
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Terry's best advice for shifting out of anger and into connection
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A powerful guided boundary practice to follow along with
Bio
Terry Real is an internationally recognized family therapist, speaker and best-selling author committed to helping you build the lasting, loving relationships you deserve.
The author of four books, including the recent New York Times bestseller Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship, Terry knows how to lead people on a step-by-step journey to greater intimacy and personal fulfillment.
His revolutionary approach to couples therapy, Relational Life Therapy (RLT), underpins all of his books, courses and teachings. RLT equips people with the powerful relational skills they need to make love work and cultivate authentic connections – to themselves, each other and the planet as a whole.
A former senior faculty member of the Family Institute of Cambridge in Massachusetts and a retired Clinical Fellow of the Meadows Institute in Arizona, Terry has worked with thousands of individuals, couples and fellow therapists. His extraordinary ability to save couples on the brink of divorce garnered Terry the reputation of "the turnaround guy," and demand from other therapists to learn his RLT method skyrocketed.
To bring the remarkable results of RLT to as many people as possible, Terry established his Relational Life Institute. To date, thousands of mental health practitioners have benefited from a whole new perspective on couples therapy that has transformed their clients, their practice and their own relationships.
Terry is passionately committed to empowering us all with the essential relational skills for meaningful relationships.
Learn more about Terry's work on his website and take his FREE quiz.
Timestamps
00:00:56 - Guest introduction
00:01:12 - What Terry's book Fierce Intimacy taught Layla
00:05:03 - Sign up for Layla's newsletter at LaylaMartin.com
00:05:43 - Terry shares the work that inspired his grid
00:07:00 - Terry's "grid" that reveals how your trauma shows up in relationships
00:09:47 - Why we have a hard time centering our own self-esteem
00:11:21 - Terry gives a real life example of self-esteem
00:15:33 - How to get out of one down or one up on the grid
00:21:10 - Say whatever you have to say, but do it from the heart
00:23:55 - Individual empowerment vs relational empowerment
00:26:10 - Discov
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