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Seeing My Wife With Someone Else: Mickey’s Sex Stories
Episode 196
Polyamory, kink, and the journey from good boy to fuckboy—Mickey shares how he’s unlearning shame, discovering his desires, and finally giving himself permission to want things.
📈 STATS | 43 heterosexual Irish-American cis male, polyamorous, married with four kids.
⏰ TIME CODE
00:00 Learning to live mostly shame-free in his 40s
04:59 Parenting four kids while carving out intentional intimacy
08:03 Sexy music, confidence, and how visuals turn him on
13:26 The epic sex and consent talk his mom gave—with a cucumber
17:16 Teaching his kids bodily autonomy and safer sex over time
19:05 What makes a great safer sex conversation (and when to have it)
23:25 Porn, Whitney Houston, and Basic Instinct: his formative moments
29:01 The sexual butler era and prioritizing partners over himself
36:41 From guilt about receiving to learning he’s allowed to feel good
40:08 Rockstar era: from eager-to-please to full-on fuckboy
43:15 Car crash wake-up call and rebuilding his sex life from scratch
45:40 How his partner helped him slow down and explore safely
50:14 Getting head from a man, sex parties, and being a curious yes
56:40 New desires, baby steps toward polyamory, and sexy jealousy
1:00:46 Watching his wife with another man—and loving it
1:03:12 Why sex and desire deserve space, even with kids
1:06:35 Nudes, sexting, and erotic reconnection while on EMT shifts
1:08:58 Reflecting on consent, parenting, and raising healthier humans
1:12:32 Dreaming of sex clubs, dom/sub play, and performing pleasure
1:15:50 What he’d tell his younger self: it’s okay to want things
1:17:28 How to support the movement for more love and sexual freedom
🤩 TOPICS | ADHD and sex, anal play exploration, anxious receivers, ass licking curiosity, Austin sex scene, avoiding heteronormative scripts, bisexual blowjob experience, blowjob technique reflection, condom demonstration on cucumber, consent communication with kids, consent conversation examples, dominant wife fantasies, enthusiastic yes education, erotic pillow humping, fear of selfishness, guilt during oral sex, hetero foursome story, kink-aware therapist support, learning boundaries through sex ed, libido in long-term relationships, male-on-male oral, masturbation method experimentation, middle-aged kink discovery, naked photos for couples, nervous system response to anal, nudes from husbands, oral fixations and preferences, paramedic and sex drive, penis sensitivity, polyamorous mindset, postpartum sex recovery, premarital exploration guilt, prioritizing partner pleasure, proactive safer sex conversations, receiving pleasure as healing, rekindling desire after babies, scheduling intimacy with kids, sexting as connection, sharing sexy selfies, socialized sexual shame, solo pleasure preferences, spanking curiosity, strap-on fantasies, submissive role reversal, teen sex education memories, trauma-informed sex communication, trip hop for sex playlists, voyeurism origins, watching softcore porn, Whitney Houston fantasy.
Originally released November 2022.
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