Episode 98
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In this episode, we’re unpacking one of the biggest challenges men face in marriage: the version of masculinity we were taught growing up doesn’t work at home. The same traits that make you successful in the world—strength, logic, stoicism—can create distance and disconnection with your wife.
Angelo shares his personal story from the firehouse to fatherhood and how he had to unlearn what he thought it meant to be a man. You’ll learn why traditional masculinity leaves men drowning when it comes to intimacy, why the “sensitive guy” isn’t the answer either, and what it means to reconfigure your power into wholeness—strength that includes vulnerability, courage, and connection.
🔑 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
✅ Why traditional masculinity fails in modern marriages
✅ The three phases of masculinity—and why none of them alone lead to connection
✅ How to reconfigure power into wholeness: strength with love and vulnerability
✅ The hidden cost of staying stuck in old masculine scripts
✅ Four practical ways to start shifting toward the man your marriage actually needs
✅ Why embracing this change is the most courageous work you’ll ever do
💡 Key Takeaway:
The man you were taught to be helped you survive in the world, but he won’t help you thrive at home. Real strength is learning to be both powerful and open, courageous and loving. Wholeness—not toughness—is what your marriage, your kids, and your legacy truly need.
🔨 Action Steps This Week:
1⃣ Reflect on what you’ve learned. Think about the lessons you picked up about being a man. Where have they helped you? Where have they held you back, especially in your marriage?
2⃣ Admit you might need help. If you want change, stop pretending you can do it alone. Find support—a coach, group, mentor, or trusted friend. Don’t drown when there’s a life raft within reach.
3⃣ Explore your emotions. Start simple: mad, sad, glad, afraid. Can you name one today? Share it with someone, maybe even with your wife.
4⃣ Drop the armor when you walk through the door. You can carry traditional masculinity at work, but leave it outside when you come home. Your wife doesn’t need the firefighter, CEO, or soldier—she needs the whole man, open-hearted and present.
🧠 Reflection Questions:
❓ When did I first learn that vulnerability wasn’t manly? Who taught me that message, directly or indirectly?
❓ How has traditional masculinity helped me succeed in the world but hurt me at home?
❓ Which part of wholeness feels most uncomfortable for me right now—sharing my feelings, asking about hers, or using my strength to connect instead of control?
❓ Where in my marriage do I most need the life raft? Where am I drowning but pretending I’m fine?
Ready to Take Action?
🚨 Watch the FREE Better Husband Workshop → BetterHusbandSecrets.com
Questions?
📩 Email Me → angelo@angelosantiago.com
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