Episode Details

Divorce is not just a life event. It is a wealth event. In this episode, I sit down with Certified Divorce Financial Analyst Jamie Lima to rip the cover off the myths that quietly drain people’s futures. We get practical, we get specific, and we stay honest about what it takes to walk away with your sanity and a plan.

We tackle the loud myths first. No, “never get married” isn’t a strategy. No, alimony is not always forever. Most states are moving toward rehabilitative support. We break down what actually drives alimony, how “income available for support” works, and why child support calculators are state-driven while alimony is often negotiated.

The 50/50 split sounds fair until taxes smash one side. House equity is not the same as a pre-tax 401(k). We lay out why “equal” on paper can be unequal in real life, and where people hemorrhage money by letting their attorney run the financials. Hint: your lawyer litigates. Your CDFA plans.

We map your first moves before you file. Get control of income, expenses, assets, liabilities. Pull statements. Secure logins. Freeze accounts if needed. Run your credit with all three bureaus. Build your team: a divorce-savvy planner, a competent attorney, a therapist, and a support circle that actually shows up.

We close with mindset and tools. Act like the CEO of your life. Don’t fight by email. Don’t let bullies run the process. Jamie previews Secure Split, a toolkit and coming platform to help you model alimony, child support, pensions, taxes, and more with clean data and better decisions. Watch the full conversation on YouTube: https://youtu.be/43jqa-gDOgY

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