Podcast Episode Details

318 | Transmasc Hottie With a Strap: Zoo’s Update

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Episode 318

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Hotel hallway handjobs, pegging with praise, and playful spank counts—Zoo returns to share how their sex anxiety, shifting gender journey, and queer connections are shaping a search for intimacy, pleasure, and community.

📈 STATS | 28 queer trans non-binary human, they/he pronouns, polyamorous, currently partnered, bartender, Shakespearean actor, based in Los Angeles.

⏰ TIME CODE

00:00 Updates since 2022 and meeting their now-husband at a bartender conference

02:00 Hallway makeouts, secret storage rooms, and hotel hookups in New Orleans

07:00 First sparks of connection and navigating sexual anxiety with dance

11:30 Rule-breaking thrills, security cameras, and conference restrictions

13:00 Transitioning to transmasc identity and shifts in dating dynamics

17:00 Comparing Vermont’s queer scene to LA and New York

23:00 Long-distance desires, casual partners, and balancing intimacy

25:00 Shifting attractions toward masculinity and butch presentation

31:00 Anxiety around gender perception

33:00 Noodling questions and focusing on desire over perception

35:00 Condom mishaps, filming discomfort, and an unwanted yeast infection

41:00 Spanking tally game and discovering a new Dom dynamic

43:00 Pegging, praise kink, and playful anal explorations with their partner

45:00 Rediscovering libido through sexy Stardew Valley fanfiction

49:00 Polyamory as essential and struggles with long-distance sex

53:00 Trigger loops, sexual anxiety, and finding new routes to connection

59:00 Exploring kink through pressure, praise, and non-traditional dynamics

01:01:00 The messiness of butt sex and embracing new practices

01:01:20 Photo book project on lesbian bars and queer archival work

01:07:15 Dreaming of queer community spaces and creative hubs

01:12:00 Finding their first porn film online and their kink origins

01:19:00 Future hopes: consistent, connected orgasms and true friends-with-benefits

🤩 TOPICS | Alcove makeouts, anxiety loops, bartender conference romance, bisexual queer identity, body confidence, butch attraction, casual encounters, chest dysphoria, chosen family community, connected orgasms, creative queer bar visions, dancing through anxiety, deep intimacy, disassociation during sex, edgy hotel hookups, ethical porn favorites, evolving gender presentation, fanfiction arousal, first porn memories, friends-with-benefits dreams, high production porn, hotel edging, identity shifts, intimacy struggles, kink discovery, latex allergy mishap, lesbian bar archive, libido revival, long-distance love, masturbation inspiration, motorcycle threesome fantasy, naked dancing, non-latex condoms, non-monogamous orientation, OnlyFans filming regret, pegging with praise, polyamorous identity, pressure play, queer nightlife spaces, relationship anarchist vibes, rule-breaking thrill, security camera exhibitionism, sensuality in vintage porn, sexual anxiety triggers, spanking tally game, Stardew Valley smut, strap-on sex, threesomes with multiple penises, vintage porn aesthetics, wingman support.

🔗 ZOO LINKS | @zooholmstrom / thelongroadtolesbos.com

Zoo’s episode from April 2019 | The Fantasy Chamber

Zoo’s update from September 2022 | Phan

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Published on 4 weeks ago