Episode Details

With more and more dating moving online, how do we separate real honest people from those who are misrepresenting themselves and the outright scammers? Our guest today is Kezia Noble. Kezia is a leading female dating and attraction expert for men and author of the bestselling book The Noble Art of Seducing Women.

Kezia's company helps clients learn conversation skills and ways to overcome anxiety in dating situations. Starting in 2009, she has since become a YouTube sensation. She and her team have helped over 100,000 men to overcome a multitude of sticking points and limiting beliefs, and open their eyes to the skills, techniques, insights, and secrets needed to be successful in dating. She joins us today to talk about red flags on dating apps and how you can protect yourself from potential scammers.

• [0:31] - Kezia is a Dating and Attraction Expert for men. She's been in this field for a decade and runs worldwide workshops.
• [1:10] - Kezia helps guys with their anxiety and builds confidence in being themselves when dating.
• [2:30] - Chris and Kezia discuss the impact Coronavirus has had on dating. Kezia is in the UK and there are fewer restrictions there now so people are back on the dating scene.
• [4:05] - Kezia shares the differences in men and women as targets on dating apps. It is easier to target men on dating apps than women.
• [4:30] - If a man suddenly receives many messages from a woman who is outrageously beautiful, it could be a red flag.
• [5:10] - Kezia doesn't use online dating because of the ease people have in lying online.
• [6:11] - Pay attention to the messages. Are they offering you everything you want to hear? Are they avoiding an in-person meeting?
• [7:00] - Love bombing is an attempt to influence a person by excessive attention and affection. This happens a lot with online dating.
• [8:01] - When creating your profiles, you should be cautious when posting that you are looking for a serious relationship because it makes you appear vulnerable and more of a target for scammers.
• [9:42] - Kezia creates a scenario of what she would do if she were a scammer and how some scammers can be very clever.
• [11:28] - Chris shares a story about a previous guest who is a man in his 60's who has seen his photo being used as a dating app scam.
• [12:50] - If you have any inkling that someone you are messaging on a dating app is a scammer, Kezia recommends to drop a hint that you don't have money and see what their reaction is.
• [15:22] - Another trick is to reverse look-up a photo from a dating app. Download the person's photo and search for it. If it shows up a lot as a stock photograph or shows up with a lot of different names, it is a red flag.
• [16:09] - There have been situations of celebrities using dating apps and people don't believe that they are actually who they say they are.
• [17:27] - You should always be careful because people exaggerate online easily. This is also apparent on Instagram photos.
• [19:06] - Even if you sit there and think that you won't be scammed, if you are in a desperate situation, you'll convince yourself to believe something.
• [20:18] - The biggest red flag is when someone will never meet up in person with you.
• [22:17] - One simple rule to live by