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#56: The Moral Case for Ethical Seduction & Why It’s Necessary for Connection
There are two strategies men deploy when they’re dating, but insecure. Either they try the “Nice Guy” approach or its opposite, the pickup artist approach.
But even though these strategies are polar opposites, they suffer the same moral flaw of concealment. Whenever you put on a mask over yourself, you sever the possibility of authentic connection.
The solution?
Ethical seduction based on radical transparency.
This way sounds harder because it is: It requires you to be honest with yourself and the person you’re attracting. It’s also scarier because you face the real risk of rejection.
But you know what?
It’s the only moral way to find your life partner. Plus, it’s not just about being honest to your partner, but also being honest with yourself - the first step towards designing a deeply fulfilling life.
In today’s show, you’ll discover the moral case for ethical seduction, why concealment kills connection, and a few simple ways to incorporate more ethical seduction in your love life and even your career (with real life examples you can try).
Listen now.
Show Highlights Include:
- How being radically transparent in dating is like a cheat code for attraction, connection, and self-integration (and why most guys shy away from it) (0:30)
- Why the “Nice Guy” approach to dating backfires and ends in humiliation (and how to get the women you want without putting a mask on your personality) (2:14)
- The moral flaw both the nice guy who can’t get a date and the pickup artist who can’t create a secure relationship commit (4:34)
- The almost-too-simple (but effective) “Ethical Seduction” strategy for landing a date with someone you just met (5:52)
- Try these 2 transparent openers on attractive women you want to genuinely connect with (they’re far more effective and honest than the nice guy routine or following a pickup artist script) (6:27)
- How owning your insecurity instead of hiding it instantly boosts your attractiveness (7:45)
- The counterintuitive way polarization is the quickest way to find your life partner (15:16)
- A silly, but true example from an old 80s sitcom about how transparency erases anxiety and unlocks the possibility for true, authentic connection (22:20)
- How radical transparency in leadership motivates and inspires your team (even when you’re faced with insurmountable challenges) (28:57)
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