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257: Stop Asking Your Kid Why (Bite Size Nugget)
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In this bite-sized nugget, I’m tackling two parenting habits that need to go: asking your toddler why they did something, and thinking co-regulation “isn’t working.” Spoiler—your toddler doesn’t know why they hit their sibling or why they won’t poop on the potty, and expecting them to explain just sets you both up for frustration. And co-regulation? It’s not a trick to stop tantrums—it’s you staying calm in the middle of their chaos. That’s it. No scripts, no magic code, no perfect outcome. Just you modeling regulation while they borrow your vibe (or not). This is your reminder to drop the “why” questions, stop looking for the magic phrase, and keep showing up as the steady leader your kid needs.
Timestamps:
(00:00:44) Understanding Toddler Behavior Through Interpretation
(00:01:28) Toddler Communication: Understanding Cognitive Limitations
(00:03:20) Calm Parenting Approach for Co-Regulation
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