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The Parenting Shift That Builds Trust With Your LGBTQ Child
Description
Do you ever feel like the harder you try to guide your LGBTQ child, the more they pull away?
You’re not alone. In this deeply personal episode, Heather Hester explores the emotional weight of control, how it shows up in families, and why learning to lead with influence, not force, can transform your relationship with your child. Whether you’re parenting a queer or trans teen or simply navigating a tense family dynamic, this episode offers a compassionate reframe grounded in real-life stories and tools.
- Understand why control breeds resistance and how influence fosters lasting trust
- Learn how to recognize control patterns in your parenting and gently shift your approach
- Discover Heather’s ARCC method for setting loving boundaries with courage and clarity
Press play to begin releasing control and embracing the kind of influence that builds deeper bonds with your LGBTQ+ child and with yourself.
Resource Spotlight
- Brené Brown’s Daring Greatly — A powerful book about vulnerability, trust, and courage. It’s a reminder that letting go of control is often where the real strength lies.
- Greater Good Science Center (UC Berkeley) — Research-backed resources on how compassion and influence, not control, create healthier relationships and communities.
- The Gottman Institute — Relationship experts offering tools to replace control with influence and build trust in families, partnerships, and beyond.
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