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85 Perfectionism: Who, What, Where, When, Why, and How

Episode 85 Published 4 years, 6 months ago
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  1. Join me as we discover explore all the elements of perfectionism, from its root causes to its surface manifestations, through an Internal Family Systems lens, grounded in a Catholic world view.  Through poetry, quotes, research findings, personal examples and the current professional literature, I pull together many strands into a unified whole to help you deeply grasp the internal experience of perfectionism.
  2. Intro
     
    1. The Quintessential Persona    Leanna Smith
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    1. We are together in this great adventure, this podcast, Interior Integration for Catholics, we are journeying together, and I am honored to be able to spend this time with you.  
    2. I am Dr. Peter Malinoski, clinical psychologist and passionate Catholic and together, we are taking on the tough topics that matter to you.  
    3. We bring the best of psychology and human formation and harmonize it with the perennial truths of the Catholic Faith.   
    4. Interior Integration for Catholics is part of our broader outreach, Souls and Hearts bringing the best of psychology grounded in a Catholic worldview to you and the rest of the world through our website soulsandhearts.com
    5. Let's get into answering the questions -- the who, what, where, when, why, and how of perfectionism.  This is episode 85 of the Interior Integration for Catholics Podcast it's titled:  Perfectionism:  Who, What, Where, When, Why, and How
    6. Perfectionism -- a major, major problem for so many Catholics.   A major, major problem for so many of us.  Thomas Curran and Andrew Hill  2019 Psychological Bulletin Article:  Perfectionism Is Increasing Over Time: A Meta-Analysis of Birth Cohort Differences From 1989 to 2016
       
      1. reviewed dozens of studies from a 27 year timespan all using the same instrument  the Multidimensional Perfectionism Scale by Hewitt and Flett
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      1. 164 study samples comprising more than 41,000 college students in the US, Canada and Great Britain between 1989 and 2016
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      1. Results:  there is no doubt.  Perfectionism among college students is on the rise.  
        1. Between 1989 and 2016, 
          1. the scores for socially prescribed perfectionism —  or perceiving that other have excessive expectations of me — increased by 33%. 
          2. Other-oriented expectations — putting unrealistic expectations on others — went up 16%
          3. and self-oriented perfectionism — our irrational desire to be perfect — increased 10%

 

  1. The Who of Perfectionism -- the Parts
  2. The What of Perfectionism -- What is it?  What are the different kinds of perfectionism, what are the elements?
  3. Where Does Perfectionism Come From Within Us
  4. When Does Perfectionism Get Activated?
  5. Why Does Perfectionism Start and Why Does it Keep Going?
  6. How Do We Overcome Perfectionism?  How do we resolve it?  Not just a descriptive diagnosis, but a proscriptive conceptualization that gives a direction for healing, resolving the perfectionism.  Not just symptom management, this is your cross nonsense.  There are real crosses that God gives us. Yes.  But those crosses fit well.  The crosses we impose upon ourselves do not fit well.  

 

  1. What -- What is perfectionism?  You know that I want precise definitions when we dive into deep topics together.  I think it's ironic that there is a lot of unclear, sloppy thinking about perfectionism by perfectionists.  Shining a bright clear light on it.  
    1. Definition of Perfectionism
       
      1. Brene Brown:  The Gifts of Imperfection:  Perfectionism is a self-destructive and addictive belief system that fuels the primary thought: If I look perfect, live perfectly, and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimize painful feelings or shame, judgment and blame
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      1. Marc Foley O.C.D.  Editor of Story of a Soul: Study Ed
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