Podcast Episode Details

125: Sensuality, Creativity & Pole Dancing with Selene Ashé

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Episode 125

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What if shame wasn’t the enemy but the doorway?

In this episode I sit down with my dear friend, pole dance teacher, and new author Wendy Diaz, who writes under the pen name Selene Ashé. She’s just released her first book Diary of a Bad Bitch, a work that blends memoir and erotic nonfiction.

We get into her journey with pole dance as a path of self-expression, the permission it creates for women to explore their sensuality, and the way her writing opens space for honest, vulnerable conversations about sexuality and creativity.

You’ll Learn:

• Why pole dance can feel like an initiation for women
• What it feels like to face waves of shame and discover safety in sensual expression
• The link between childhood innocence and adult erotic energy
• Why female versus male gaze changes everything in dance and performance
• The quiet damage of women judging each other’s expression, and what happens when that shifts
• Why creativity should be treated as a daily priority rather than a side project
• The raw process of writing erotic nonfiction and why using a pen name mattered to her
• What it takes to set the stage for authentic movement and see where the body leads
• The enduring truth that sexuality and pleasure are always available, even after disconnection

Timestamps:

[00:00] Introduction

[07:14] The permission field of pole dance and moving through shame

[13:27] Creativity expanding into tattooing, drawing, and blood painting

[19:04] Female versus male gaze in performance and dance videos

[25:11] Navigating invisibility, fame, and the desire for attention

[31:45] Erotic reclamation, archetypes, and sexual exploration through pole

[37:42] Writing her book and choosing a pen name

[42:51] Building conscious cabaret as a safe performance space

[45:58] Sensuality, sexuality, and the role of slowing down

[54:12] Why pleasure and sexuality are always available

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