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THE (BEST) SEX TALK YOU NEVER GOT
Season 7 Episode 2
🔥 Sex is the bridge to yourself and your partner, a journey of connection, intimacy, and self-discovery.
In this insightful episode of The Forties Formula podcast — winner of Best Health & Wellness Podcast in Asia 2025 —, hosts Jasmin Dhillon and Amanda Lim sit down with DR. ANGELA TAN, sexual wellness specialist with over 15 years of experience supporting individuals and couples in their most intimate challenges. With warmth and openness, Dr. Angela shares how she blends medical expertise with heart-led coaching to help people reconnect with themselves and their partners.
The conversation explores what it truly means to feel connected to yourself and to your partner. They discuss challenges such as low desire, painful sex, and emotional distance. Dr. Angela also shares how real intimacy is about more than the physical. It is rooted in safety, vulnerability, and finding your voice again in relationships and in life.
Together, they explore:
• How women in their 40s can reclaim sexual pleasure and ownership of their bodies
• Reconnecting with your body through awareness, gratitude, and self-exploration
• Practical ways to communicate desires and initiate conversations about sex
Relationships don’t survive on routines or guessing what the other person needs. They grow when you talk openly, listen closely, and make time for each other while still taking care of yourself. The little daily efforts, like checking in, being honest, and showing appreciation, are what really keep the connection alive.
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CHAPTERS
00:00 – Episode Snippet
04:53 — Introducing our guest, Dr. Angela Tan
05:26 – Owning sexuality vs. holding back
07:33 - Exploring sexual preferences can be empowering
08:47 - Beliefs shaped by culture, society, and religion
12:04 - Gaps in understanding due to poor sex education
15:13 - Successful women may suppress pleasure to stay “proper”
17:11 - Start to reconnect with your body
19:32 - How do you approach the topic about painful sex?
25:22 - Sex should focus on intimacy, not transaction
28:12 - Regular self-care and relationship check-ins are essential
31:47 - When one partner drives relationship maintenance
34:17 - Uncommunicated preferences can cause mismatch in intimacy
37:05 - How do you make your relationship more important?
43:17 - Who are we underneath the shell?
44:00 - Relationships require daily effort
46:05 - From medicine to sexology
48:51 - Self-acceptance is the first step to intimacy
50:00 - Gel stick therapy 52:41 - 40s formula: Don’t be afraid to take your space
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Published on 3 weeks ago