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Today I’m talking about how to trust yourself and the Universe. This has been one of my biggest lfie challenges, but I’ve got some simple tips that really work in this episode.

Lessons in Trust

Many lessons about trust have come to me through business. Back in 2010, I partnered with Cathy, another dating coach, to host a summit about love—a marketing method that was just starting to catch on.

At first, working together felt easy. I handled speakers and web design, she handled promotion. Then, during a check-in meeting, she announced her coach told her she didn’t need me anymore. She still wanted to finish the event, but she’d be taking it from there to continue the next year.

I was devastated. I had trusted her, and suddenly she was going to take my work. I told her she could do her own event and didn’t give her access to the site I’d built. When we hung up, I was literally shaking.

Even though it was August, hot and humid, I went to the beach with my husband to calm down. As we walked, I kept running it over again in my mind. Paul wanted to leave but I needed to walk a bit more. Then, 50 feet ahead I saw scratched into the sand in big 5″ letters: TRUST.

I froze. Who wrote that? Trust what? Trust who? My husband said, “Trust yourself.” Not exactly the message I wanted, but the truth was there. I couldn’t trust Cathy, but I could trust myself enough to walk away.

Going Deeper

There was a deeper lesson too. Trust isn’t blind faith or ignoring red flags. It’s really about discernment. Cathy showed me who she was. The real question became, did I trust myself to act on this new information? I sure did. Walking away from her wasn’t what I wanted, but it was the only thing to do.

You can’t expect everyone to do right by you. Yet, you don’t want to distrust everyone blindly either. When you trust yourself, you’ll stay open while knowing you’ll handle things if they go awry.

The Universe often teaches lessons through other people and relationships. Sometimes it comes in the form of disappointment or betrayal, while other times through support and friendship. Learn to trust yourself to respond appropriately when someone shows you who they are.

Over the years, I’ve learned to trust my gut. I feel the truth in my body. Often it shows up as something hard I know I have to do, but wish I didn’t.

So let’s talk about trust—trusting yourself, the Universe, and that whole magical dance between the two.

What Does “Trust the Universe” Mean?

Trusting the Universe isn’t about astrology or seeing signs or manifesting. It’s about believing life isn’t out to get you, and that you are supported, even when all hell breaks loose.

When you surrender to the Univer