Episode Details

Sexuality isn’t just behavior—it’s an internal experience. We sit down with researcher-coach Dr. Sam Greenberg to map how Enneagram type and instincts shape desire, cues, assertiveness, and intimacy. Sam outlines the gifts and challenges of each instinct, why instincts often predict sexual patterns more than type, how repressed instincts show up in the bedroom, and what happens in common pairings (like self-pres x sexual). We also hit evolutionary frames, honeymoon-phase myths, “service sex,” stress/context loads, and practical ways couples can reduce friction and increase connection—without shame.

What you’ll learn

• A working definition of sexual desire vs. sexual behavior
• Why instincts set the framework and type adds nuance
• Gifts/challenges of self-pres, social, and sexual dominance
• How repressed instincts derail empathy, safety, or passion
• Common pairing dynamics (self-pres × sexual, etc.) and best practices
• Why stress, sleep, money, and context change desire—and what to do about it

Connect with our guest

• IG: @enneagasm (Sexy First Fridays with therapist Lindsay Frazier)
• Web: EnneagramSexpert.com

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