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Is FAFO the End of Gentle Parenting or Just the Start of Bigger Problems?
Episode 1328
A viral trend called “FAFO parenting” is exploding on TikTok and even making headlines in the Wall Street Journal. Advocates say it’s the antidote to “soft” parenting — let kids fuss around and find out the hard way. But is this tough-love comeback really preparing kids for life or setting them up for harm? In this episode, Justin and Kylie unpack the hype, the dangers, and the research-backed alternative every parent needs to hear.
In this episode:
- What FAFO (“Fuss Around and Find Out”) parenting actually looks like — and why it’s trending
- The three big claims FAFO parents make
- Why FAFO backfires
- The vital difference between natural consequences and manufactured hardships
- How “need-supportive parenting” builds resilience without breaking trust
QUOTE OF THE EPISODE
“Discipline isn’t about hurting kids to prove a point. It’s about problem-solving so they can discover the lesson.”
RESOURCES MENTIONED
- Wall Street Journal article on FAFO parenting (subscription required)
- Alfie Kohn, Punished by Rewards
- More parenting resources: happyfamilies.com.au
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
- Resist the temptation to outsource learning to punishment.
- When mistakes happen, guide your child through problem-solving instead of powerplays.
- Protect the parent–child relationship — resilience grows best where trust is strong.
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