Episode Details

Disapproval is something most of us feel from ourselves or from others on a consistent basis. What if you could feel the disapproval and still feel confident and be at peace with yourself? What if disapproval doesn't have to derail your day or keep you from moving forward with your goals? Today's episode outlines why it's hard to feel disapproval and a formula for working through disapproval when it comes. A printable episode guide is available here. 

Take Aways

• Disapproval is hard because we naturally desire to be "liked."
• It also feels yucky when we initially feel disapproved of so we try to get out of that yucky feeling as fast as possible. 
• You may also be worried about a possible long-term impact their disapproval could mean for you. That makes it complicated to know how to respond.
• Disapproval of yourself comes up often because our brain is consistently looking for the bad and judging. 
• Try to see the other side of things when you notice your brain offering negative after negative thoughts.
• When you're feeling disapproved of it is NOT a good time for introspection.
• Formula to allowing disapproval: 

1. Recognize that you're feeling disapproved of and let yourself feel uncomfortable. 
2. Pause. Hold back on lashing out immediately or running away from the situation.
3. Clarify. Fill in the blank: This doesn't mean that ______.
4. Clarify. Fill in the blank: It could mean that ______.
5. You'll feel a bit better.
6. Decide what to do or say next. 

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