Episode Details

External motivation is a tricky and fickle thing that can make you consistent one week, only to feel defeated and deflated the next 3 weeks.

Why?

Because external motivation is a short-term band-aid that's not only unsustainable over time, but actually makes it harder to be consistent with any goal you're trying to achieve.

There's a better source to fuel your energy in pursuit of your goals: Yourself.

Problem is, we've never been more disconnected from our true selves than ever before thanks in large part to social media. But something magical happens when you reconnect with yourself:

Your brain joins your team instead of constantly criticizing you.

This journey of self-connection isn't always puppies and rainbows… but it's possible. And today's guest, MFY Coach Patrick, LCPC (who has 25+ years of experience as a mental health professional) understands this better than anyone, especially as it relates to your consistency with fitness.

Patrick battled depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem first hand, which led him to become a mental health specialist in the first place. And as the Motivation & Consistency Coach at Man Flow Yoga, he has a sixth sense for helping you understand how you hold yourself back on an emotional level.

He also understands how to talk to your "inner world" in a way that reconnects you to yourself, and allows you to be consistent without relying on motivation.

Here's what Coach Patrick shares in this episode:

• How to give yourself permission to stop beating yourself up

• The "Monster in the Basement" trap of negative self-talk that flies under most guys' radars

• How to be kinder with yourself even when you're not in a good place

And more, including these highlights:

• Why advice that only tells you what to do falls flat (even if it's good advice, it doesn't empower you like Coach Patrick's "Empowerment Therapy" coaching style) (4:46)

• The weird way celebrating your wins, even if they're small, prevents you from falling into the trap of self-sabotage (5:54)

• How motivational YouTube videos can actually make you feel defeated and deflated (and the trick to stop relying on motivation completely without sacrificing your fitness goals) (10:12)

• 2 reasons why more men are unhappy today than we've ever been (13:02)

• Do you feel disconnected from yourself? Here are 3 techniques that help you tune out the noise and understand yourself on a deeper level (17:09)

• How to actually convince your brain to join your team instead of being your biggest critic (21:37)

• How to point out your flaws and faults and failures in a kind way (31:01)

• Why focusing your intrusive thoughts, anxieties, and insecurities to a specific body part can help you "digest" the emotion without spiraling (47:48)

• The counterintuitive reason trying to ignore negative thoughts, emotions, and stories give t