Episode Details

Dating from Secure, Avoidant, and Everything In-Between:

Dating isn’t just about finding the right person — it’s about showing up as the right version of yourself. In this episode, Michele + River pull back the curtain on their different attachment journeys.

River shares what it’s like to move from anxious to avoidant, and now into a more secure space, while navigating the unpredictable waters of online dating — including the lingering instinct to think, “I need you to like me more than I like you, so I know it’s real.”

Michele opens up about dating as a securely attached woman who once lived in the grip of codependency — where love meant over-giving and proving her worth — and how that transformation has made dating calmer, clearer, and a whole lot more fun.

Together, they explore:

• The moments that signal a shift in attachment style

• How old patterns still whisper in new relationships

• The difference between protecting your peace and pushing people away

• Why secure attachment feels like freedom with roots

Whether you’re swiping right, newly single, or just attachment-style curious, this conversation is a candid, compassionate look at how self-awareness changes how we date — and why the most important relationship you’ll ever have is the one you build with yourself.