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Back to EpisodesThe Truth About Scheduled Sex: How to Rekindle Intimacy in Marriage
Description
Is scheduled sex really the death of desire…or is it your secret weapon for reigniting connection after kids? In this episode, Sofia (your TMI bedroom advice bestie for parents) busts the myths about putting sex on the calendar—and shows you how to turn obligation into anticipation.
What You’ll Learn:
01:07 Debunking the Scheduled Sex Myth
01:21 Why People Resist Scheduling Sex
01:50 Scheduling Creates the Mood
02:28 The Pressure of Scheduled Nights
02:49 Real-Life Example: Anniversary Expectations
03:38 Naked Fun Dates, Not Sex Dates
04:22 Step 1: Book a Date & Treat It as Non-Negotiable
04:59 Step 2: Build the Bridge from Parent to Lover
05:18 Transition Rituals & Building Anticipation
05:41 Get Relaxed, Present, and Connected
06:35 Step 3: Communicate More Than You Think
07:10 Step 4: Debrief After Connection Dates
07:26 Always Be Learning About Each Other
07:47 Client Story: Laura's Pain-Free Sexy Times
08:33 Scheduled Sex = Grownup Intimacy
10:31 Mindfulness Minute & Closing
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