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Learning how to establish healthy boundaries with your abusive ex-husband is essential for your emotional safety. Celeste, a member of The BTR.ORG Community, shares strategies in The BTR.ORG Living Free Workshop to establish emotional safety and find peace in a difficult situation.

• The BTR.ORG Living Free Workshop helps victims navigate boundary-setting in divorce or married scenarios.
• This video simply and clearly breaks down what effective boundaries are, and how women can begin to establish them.

Post-separation abuse is a sad reality for many victims of betrayal and emotional abuse. Even though they have separated themselves from the abuser, the abuser may still try to exert power and control. Often, abusers will use communication, coparenting, and finances to create chaos and distress in victims’ lives. It is essential that victims establish healthy boundaries with their abusive ex.

Transcript: How To Establish Healthy Boundaries With Your Abusive Ex

Anne: A member of our community, we’re going to call her Celeste is on today’s episode. She’s divorced and has been working toward setting healthy boundaries with her abusive ex husband. She was concerned about working through some financial problems that her ex was causing. She implemented some Living Free strategies found in The Betrayal Trauma Recovery Living Free Workshop. Thanks for coming on today.

Anne: Do you feel like you could use the strategies in Living Free to resolve these financial issues?

Celeste: Yes, I was. It was difficult, but resolved. Retirement funds were transferred and bank accounts were closed. I’m financially disconnected from my ex.

Anne: So talk about how things have gone since you implemented these Living Free strategies and healthy boundaries.

Celeste: I gained some resiliency in dealing with him and in the minimum response possible. And I find that instead of reacting, this magic solution has happened. I don’t know how to articulate it, but it has been a peaceful time in my heart and soul in dealing with him. And I am grateful for it.

Anne: So talk about before you found the Living Free strategies. What was going on?

Celeste: Well, I thought this just doesn’t work for me, I need to do something. I felt very guilty, that I wanted some sort of barrier between communication. As I went back and forth and researched, they didn’t fit my situation. And so I kept looking for something. It didn’t come about.

Transformative Impact Of Living Free & Healthy Boundaries

Anne: And then what about after knowing about The Living Free Strategies?