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How I Trained My Wife
In this episode, join the conversation as we delve into the provocative topic of 'training' your partner for a healthier relationship. The discussion addresses societal norms, media influences, psychological insights, and personal anecdotes on how to navigate and deprogram toxic behaviors in relationships. We also touch upon common relationship pitfalls such as compromise, emotional arguments, and the importance of logical alignment. Along the way, we highlight the role of transparency, communication, and practical strategies for fostering mutual respect and understanding between partners.
Malcolm Collins: Hello Simone. I'm excited to be here with you today. Today we are gonna be talking about how I brainwashed you or trained you or whatever word you want to use into the perfect wife drone that you are to today. As some people, yes, husband. You? No, I mean, you are honestly, remarkably good. Like I, and, and trained is the right word here.
Like we worked for a long time.
Simone Collins: Yeah. This, it didn't start, it didn't, things weren't smooth always.
Malcolm Collins: No, they think they're very smooth. Now, I won't say it's not that they were not smooth, it's that you made more mistakes, but they were understandable mistakes, given the context of the relationship at the time.
Simone Collins: Well, also given societal norms about what normal women do in relationships, which as we've covered in other episodes, is really toxic. So actually, if you want to even have a slightly healthy relationship training of your wife. Is mandatory just because the, the social contract she expects, the societal norms she's coming in with are by default toxic.
They need to be removed. Like you need to, like, this is like, you know, she's coming in like ridden with license. You just like spray her down and like the, the,
Malcolm Collins: I'll give you an example of something like this because, you know, she might be saying this and if you're a woman or something like that, you're like, oh my gosh, come on, this isn't true.
And I'm like, you. If you are a woman of our generation, you went through an entire generation of media whether it's the Simpsons or Family Guy or any of these sitcom shows where the stereotype was that you have a fat, dumb husband. Mm-hmm. And the wife's job was to sit there in the background and make snide remarks about his competence mm-hmm.
In front of other people. Yeah. And then actually just go do what is actually right because he can't handle it on his own. Because he's just such a buffoon.
Simone Collins: Yeah. It was always just eye rolling and undermining your husband and that that was just so normalized
Malcolm Collins: and, and, and no, and so many women are like, I haven't been brainwashed into being, you know, by, by, by the culture I'm in to being a psycho.
And it's like, think about. Just, just think about like, if you're a woman watching this, all of this that you grew up with, do you not think that that influenced your norms about the way you might act in a relationship at all? Like do Yeah. If you,
Simone Collins: if you wanna believe that that didn't influence you, you're just delusional.
I mean, we, we, there is, there is lots of evidence. There are plenty, and we talked about this a little bit in our episode on. Propaganda how TV shows and radio shows have shaped behavior even going so far as to, for example, in Brazil, depressed birth rates when you make an aspirational middle class family have lower numbers of children, specifically in places where this one network soap operas played, their fertility rates went down.
It didn't play in every region of Brazil and in the regions that were not exposed to this. Birth grades didn't go down. So absolutely media influences us and a
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