Episode Details

If someone tells you to take a bubble bath one more time, you might scream.

This Quick Reset is a no-filter, nervous-system-level rant for every ADHD mum who’s been told that a massage will fix her burnout. Jane unpacks why the whole self-care industry is fundamentally mismatched to neurodivergent mums — and how pretending we feel better after one ‘treat’ just leads to more shame, not recovery.

From sensory overload and executive dysfunction to the rage of being handed a “Mother’s Day spa voucher” after 364 days of unpaid emotional labour, this episode calls out the delusion of performance rest — and offers honest alternatives that might actually increase your capacity to survive.

✨ IN THIS RESET:

• Why typical self-care advice feels like a slap in the face
• How ADHD brains struggle to “relax on command”
• The truth behind fake rest, survival mode, and executive dysfunction
• What to do when even the bath feels too hard
• How to find five-minute moments that actually help (without a full routine)
• A very real story about walking 50 metres to put the bins out — slowly

💭 This episode is for you if:
– You’re drowning in responsibility and someone suggests yoga
– You’ve tried rest but felt more resentful than rested
– You want to stop surviving a system that breaks you, blames you, and offers a bubble bath as compensation

References

• 📚Brown, T. E. (2013). A New Understanding of ADHD in Children and Adults: Executive Function Impairments. Routledge.
• 📚 *Price, D. (2021). Laziness Does Not Exist. Atria Books.
• 📚 Barkley, R. A. (2012). Executive Functions: What They Are, How They Work, and Why They Evolved. Guilford Press.

Other Quick Reset Episodes:

• S3E8 Advocating for Your Child Shouldn’t Break You — But It Often Does: Spotify | Apple Podcast
• S3E10 Why am I bracing for impact when nothing is wrong?: Spotify  | Apple Podcast
• S3E12 I can’t stop snapping when my child does this one thing: Spotify | Apple Podcast 
• S3E14 I Cancel Plans Because I Don’t Have the Energy to Fake My Personality: Spotify | Apple Podcast
• S3E15 He wants the Maldives but we can't even manage the park: Spotify |

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