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Episode 474 Getting Real About What You Want Hosts: Brian Miller, PCC and Chad Hall, MCC Date: July 17, 2025

In this episode, Brian Miller and Chad Hall explore the deceptively simple yet profoundly important coaching question: What do you want? They unpack how naming desires—whether deep, superficial, or somewhere in between—can transform both coaching conversations and personal spiritual growth. Drawing parallels to biblical stories and real-life examples, they reflect on how acknowledging and expressing desires can lead to clarity, healthier goals, and deeper self-understanding.

• The Question at the Core of Coaching

  • Asking "What do you want?" often uncovers hidden motivations and unmet desires driving a client's behavior.

• The Fear of Shallow Wants

  • Many people worry that naming their wants will make them seem selfish or superficial, but it often leads to deeper, more meaningful goals.

• Desires as Hidden Forces

  • Unacknowledged wants can quietly steer decisions; bringing them into the light allows more intentional action.

• Spiritual Dimensions of Wanting

  • Expressing desires honestly before God can deepen faith and reveal truer longings over time.

• The Three Essential Questions

  • From Scott Adams: What do you want? What will it cost? How willing are you to pay the cost?

• Naming what you want, even if it feels messy or embarrassing, is the first step toward clarity and growth.

• Coaching should be a safe space where clients can express raw, unprocessed desires without judgment.

• Sometimes getting what you want reveals that it's not what you truly need—leading to healthier desires and better decisions.

• Coaches can model the unconditional acceptance shown in the story of the prodigal son, staying open and curious rather than offended by a client's wants.

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