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Back to Episodes0146 Female Led Relationships: Let’s Talk About Talking - Communication in FLR
Description
We’re back from multiple vacations, we’ve battled bad internet, shady bank activity, and a child-filled Uber—and now we’re hitting you with one of the most essential (but least sexy) parts of a Female-Led Relationship: communication.
This week, I dive into a PsychCentral article about Nine Steps to Better Communication—and, surprise!—I have a lot to say about it.
This episode is raw, real, rambling, and right from the gut. If you’ve ever felt misunderstood, unheard, or just flat-out confused in your FLR, you’re not alone.
What You’ll Hear Me Rant (lovingly) About:
- Real-life chaos: Vacations, broken internet, kids, and compromised bank accounts
- Surfacy convo vs. real emotional communication—how to spot the difference
- Why “just listening” is harder than it sounds (and yes, I’m guilty)
- Blended families, arguments, and learning to not hyper-focus on the wrong thing
- Tech vs. touch: Is texting about feelings better or worse than saying them out loud?
- Self-awareness, emotional dicklexia, and why I talk with my arms crossed and no eye contact
- The reality that communication isn’t one-size-fits-all—and that’s okay
Krystine’s Take:
“If you can’t be honest with your partner about how you feel—or what you fantasize about—what’s the point of the dynamic?”“You are allowed to feel how you fucking feel. Don’t ever let anyone shame you out of that.”
Episode Vibe:
Warm, slightly chaotic, a little sweary, and full of heart. You’ll laugh, nod, and maybe rethink how you approach serious conversations with your partner—especially when it comes to your dynamic.
Listener Reflection Questions:
- Do you feel emotionally safe enough to tell your partner everything?
- Have you mistaken casual check-ins for actual connection?
- Are you more open through texting, voice, or face-to-face conversations?
- How often do you validate your partner’s feelings (or ask for validation yourself)?
- Are you guilty of bringing up old stuff during current arguments?
Resources Mentioned:
- 9 Steps to Better Communication Today – PsychCentral (No Longer Exists)
Call to Action:
Want to talk about the way you talk?
Email me your story, your communication fails, or the moment it finally clicked. I might share it (anonymously) on a future episode.
Bonus journaling prompts for this episode are on Patreon for members
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Keywords:
domestic discipline, female led relationship dynamics, accountability, communication, people pleaser, female led relationship challenges, di