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Todd and Cathy discuss the three different types of perfectionism and why trying to perfect actually backfires and leads to fragility. They discuss why our culture has overvalued the idea of being perfect, the importance of humanizing over humiliating, and they answer a follow-up question about highly sensitive children. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com.

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(00:00:00) Introduction
(00:06:15) How long do you let tantrums last for a six year old?
(00:10:06) How normal is it for a six year old to have a tantrum?
(00:11:20) Do you support a six year old’s fear without being pushy or passive?
(00:12:48) What about a six year old who has verbalized thoughts like, ‘I’m a bad daughter’
(00:18:15) Comparisons can lead to unnecessary stress and a sense of inadequacy
(00:24:30) What’s the difference between a toddler and a teenager?
(00:27:10) Upcoming episode with Devorah Heitner
(00:27:29) Where’s the line between doing things for her and letting her do them herself?
(00:28:25) Discussion about perfectionism and how it can impact individuals
(00:30:57) What’s the difference between other oriented and, socially prescribed?
(00:34:06) They emphasize the negative effects of perfectionism, such as making individuals fragile in the face of failure and preventing them from admitting mistakes
(00:39:07) Do you want to be with someone who’s such a perfectionist that you can’t let go?
(00:40:34) Importance of recognizing that success stories are not the only valid narratives
(00:45:00) Prioritizing Human Well-Being Over Economic Metrics
(00:50:00) Significance of humanizing rather than humiliating children when they make mistakes, promoting empathy and understanding
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