Episode Details

If your partner’s dreaming of overseas holidays while you’re barely surviving the playground — this episode is for you.

This Quick Reset is a brutally honest look at what 'holiday' means when you’re the default parent, the nervous system regulator, and the one who never actually gets to rest. If your body flinches at the word “vacation” because it remembers meltdowns, sleepless nights, and judgmental relatives — you’re not alone.

Jane unpacks the invisible trauma of parenting while travelling, why holidays can feel like executive function overload, and how memory, shame, and nervous system trauma shape our future planning.

You’ll laugh, cry, and probably cancel the family road trip — but you’ll feel deeply seen.

IN THIS EPISODE:

• The five-step emotional cycle of ‘family holidays’
• Why past chaos makes your brain reject future hope
• The mental load of pretending you're relaxed
• Photo albums that trigger survival memories
• What to say when your partner doesn’t get it
• How to redefine rest when even leaving the house feels hard
• Naming nervous system trauma without shame
• Why opting out isn’t negative — it’s protective

This episode is for you if:
– You feel guilt for dreading holidays you’re “meant” to enjoy
– You’ve walked into school term more tired than you left
– You want to create memories, but not at the cost of your sanity

Resources & Links:

• Join the Facebook community: ADHD Mums FB Group
• More resources & tools: www.adhdmums.com.au/shop

🔁 SHARE THIS RESET:
If this one hit hard, send it to a mum friend who’s also stuck in survival mode. Let her know: she’s not broken, she’s bracing.

Other Quick Reset Episodes:

• S3E8 Advocating for Your Child Shouldn’t Break You — But It Often Does: Spotify | Apple Podcast
• S3E10 Why am I bracing for impact when nothing is wrong?: Spotify  | Apple Podcast
• S3E12 I can’t stop snapping when my child does this one thing: Spotify | Apple Podcast 
• S3E14 I Cancel Plans Because I Don’t Have the Energy to Fake My Personality: Spotify | Apple Podcast
• S3E16 No meds, No plan, and no help..... but yet they're still calling us undiagnosed: Spotify | Apple Podcast

• S3E17 How we survive the 3- 6:00 PM shit show