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311 | Sober Sex & Erotic Writing: Jane E’s Sex Stories
Episode 311
Poetry, pole dancing, and pillow humping—Jane shares her journey from sexual shame to embodied joy, and how writing, motherhood, and queer connection shape her erotic life.
📈 STATS | 33 bisexual sapiosexual genderfluid woman, she/they pronouns, polyamorous, situationally monogamous, submissive brat, poet, pole dancer, in recovery from sexual assault-related PTSD, wrote their Master’s thesis on the poetry of rape trauma, Pākeha New Zealander, into: exhibitionism, soft touch, bullet vibrators, 69ing, powerful poetry, dirty talk, and sex by the sea.
⏰ TIME CODE
00:00 Shame-o-meter history and working through PTSD
03:02 Naked workouts, jiggle pride, and pole dancing topless
06:48 Writing as self-love and creative ritual
10:28 How she likes to be wooed: words, soft touch, and clear communication
13:05 From stress to sex: meeting basic needs before intimacy
16:44 Sobriety, STI safety, and honestly monogamous commitment
22:01 Using "stop" as a clear safe word and parenting with consent in mind
26:10 What turns her on: praise, poetry, and presence
30:26 Her favorite dirty words and the search for better language
33:31 Masturbation as inspiration for erotic writing
35:09 Sex as creativity and co-creation
36:31 The thrill of reading and sharing erotic poetry live
39:59 How she learned about sex—TV kisses, school sex ed, and parental contrast
46:25 Discovering humping, self-pleasure, and early sexting
53:57 Her first time: a sunny garden miscommunication leads to respectful first sex
1:02:39 Exploring her sexuality, fashion school disillusionment, and heartbreak
1:08:54 Kissing girls, being dominant with women, and her first threesome
1:19:34 Erotic writing after trauma, free therapy, and the power of poetic purge
1:28:27 Postpartum breakdown, healing through words, and rediscovering desire
🤩 TOPICS | Aotearotica, affirmation, arousal, being adored, bisexual, bisexual exploration, body literacy, bullet vibrators, chronic PTSD, clitoral stimulation, cock, co-creation, communication in relationships, condom negotiation, consent, contraception, creative expression, cunt, dirty talk, dominant with women, emotional safety, erotic imagination, erotic literature, erotic writing, eroticism, exhibitionism, exhibitionist, family planning, felt safety, first time sex, frottage, garden sex, gender fluid, grinding, group sex, humping, IUD, journaling, love languages, matching lingerie, masturbation, masturbation as inspiration, masturbation memories, mental health, monogamy, motherhood and sexuality, mutual desire, narrative sex, New Zealand sex culture, non-penetrative pleasure, outdoor sex, oxytocin, parenthood, penetration, pillow humping, poetry, pole dancing, postpartum depression, praise kink, pregnancy sex, public sex, queer sexuality, romantic gestures, safe word, sapiosexual, school sex education, self-advocacy, self-exploration, self-love, sensuality, sex by the sea, sex positivity, sex with women, sexual assault recovery, sexual autonomy, sexual empowerment, sexual shame, sexual storytelling, shame, shame-o-meter, situationally monogamous, slut-shaming, small press erotica, soft touch, spoken word, STI safety, stop as a safe word, swing sex, threesomes, touch, trauma healing, vibrator, zines.
🔗 JANE LINKS | @eroticajane
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