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You’re Not Your Performance: Letting Go of Identity and Starting Again | Heather Heynen
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Heather Heynen works with people who look like they have it together.
They’re disciplined. High-performing. Driven.
But underneath, a lot of them are stuck—measuring their worth by what they do, not who they are.
This conversation goes there.
Heather is a therapist, coach, climber, and bikepacker in her 50s. She’s spent years helping people untangle the beliefs that quietly shape how they see themselves—and how those beliefs often get in the way of growth, especially later in life.
We talk about:
- Why tying your identity to performance eventually breaks down
- How limiting beliefs actually form (and why they stick)
- A simpler, more honest way to use journaling
- What “self-worth” really means when you strip everything else away
- Why trying new things as an adult can feel so uncomfortable—and why it matters
There’s also a more personal thread here.
A conversation about vulnerability, about the stories we carry, and what it takes to loosen their grip.
This one is less about optimization.
More about understanding yourself a little better—and maybe giving yourself a bit more room to grow.
You can listen to Heather's podcast - Weight Loss and Wellness for Real on all major podcast apps. You can also find her on Instagram!
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