Season 4 Episode 394
Today, we will explore the concept of setting good boundaries and how that can set you free to thrive.
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Main topic of the Show: Finding and Keeping Boundaries
Over the weekend I took on a boundary setting project. One for myself. That's right - I am quite good at community organizing, starting new businesses, communications and marketing, teaching, and helping friends. What I am not so good at is building in time for things that are important to me. Sometimes this includes maintaining close relationships, recreation and self care, exercise, detail management.
And like many of you, struggle with no - yet no is the key to setting and maintaining boundaries. Not necessarily a big ol' loud, in your face sort of no after you have let things go too far for too long - something we have all done, but just a measured no. No with no guilt. No as a matter of fact thing. And clarity - clarity of what constitutes a reasonable interaction.
Over December, I found out someone in my network was very sick. It was at an awkward time in my work schedule and I agonized over how and if to offer help. I finally decided to ask if they needed help since people are in fact more important than coffee orders. Then Mama Sauce suggested a change of wording - Do you want help.
Need versus want. A subtle change that. But an important one. It may not have changed the answer, but it did change the intention with just one word and set a clear boundary - I was willing to offer help, but was not setting myself up beyond a friendly offer to become responsible for the other person's well-being. It was an important line to draw, not for the friend who might have wanted my help, but more for myself.
It is funny how sometimes these topics pop up in our network at the same time. Right after I came home from a meeting with my mental health coach with an assignment about creating boundaries, I popped into the LFTN Mewe group and there they were, having a conversation about boundaries. Specifically boundaries with people in your life whom you do not feel you can cut ties with - and who are interacting in your life in unhealthy ways.
As I watched that conversation unfold, I thought -- let's talk about some ways that it can be tricky to set up boundaries:
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