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357: Loving the Irrational, Living with the Stuck, Losing the One
Season 1 Episode 357
Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with co-host, Nathan Gershfeld.
0:00 Teaser Clips & Intro
01:39 Q1: I’ve alerted my wife that she has distortions, but she still has them!
18:53 Irrational emotions vs distortions
29:48 Q2: Why would someone complain about their job but do nothing differently?
47:51 Q3: How can I get over the loss of my husband?
57:33 Final thoughts
Q1: Dear Dr Lisle, pop psychology advises men to validate their wives emotions but how do I validate something that is objectively invalid. I have taken your advice and have tried explaining to her that she has distortions in her personality that cause her to screw her perspective in a way that creates irrational emotions but that only makes her more angry. How can you get someone to see that they are interpreting reality incorrectly?
Q2: Why would a person constantly complain, get good advice and solutions, then do absolutely nothing? A person I know works a job they hate, that takes way too much time off them, and pays far to little. They complain bitterly and regularly to friends and family, get all hyped about changing things up, then proceed to do nothing but get back to complaining. I'd like to not give a damn but unfortunately I live with this person.
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