Episode Details

Welcome to the first episode of Five Rules for the Good Life Podcast—the audio companion to the newsletter. In each episode, a guest joins me to share one topic—how they eat, host, travel, create, or just move through the world with a little more intention (with good snacks)—and the five rules they live by. It’s less self-help, more lived-in advice from people who know what they’re doing and have made it their business to do so. These will roll out alongside the essays, whenever the timing’s right, so please enjoy the debut episode with Peter Som!

Transcript:

[00:00:00] Darin, Welcome to Five Rules for the Good Life. I'm your host, Darin Bresnitz. Today, I am joined by Peter Som, award-winning fashion director, culinary creator, and lifestyle expert, whose new book, Family Style, Elegant Everyday Recipes Inspired by Home and Heritage, is out now. We sat down today for him to chat about the cooking that he grew up with from his grandmother and mother, and he shared his five rules on how to host a stress-free dinner party. Let's get into the rules.

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[00:00:36 ] Darin Peter, congratulations on Family Style. It's a gorgeous cookbook and a real inspiration for throwing dinner parties at home. How do you feel about it being out in the world?

[00:00:46] Peter I feel great. It's three years of work, it's kind of really gratifying to actually see it out there in people's hands. You know, coming from a fashion where you do four collections a year and you're cranking stuff out, working on something for three years is a slow burn, but I feel so happy about it.

[00:01:01] Darin Your history with dinner parties really starts with the family gatherings of your grandmother and mother when you were a kid. Any inspiration from those types of meals that you've carried with you into an adult life?

[00:01:14] Peter Absolutely, my grandmother threw lots of dinner parties, so did my mom. They both kind of got it down to a science, you know, and they never seem to be stressed, and I think that is the most important thing. But yeah, I kind of have gotten it down to my sort of five golden rules of how to throw a dinner party.

[00:01:29] Darin Well, let's get into those golden rules because you have become known for your legendary dinner parties at home and abroad. What is the first rule of throwing a dinner party?

[00:01:39] Peter The first rule really is to keep it simple. The food, the drinks, the table, there's no need, unless you are some extravagant crafter or you make ice sculptures, to go crazy. So keep it simple. Remember that people, if they're coming to your home, they're really coming to see you. And the food is an added, hopefully delicious benefit.

[00:01:59] Darin You know, a lot of people can get intimidated by what they see on Instagram, trying to level up their setting game and forget about the food. What's rule number two about

[00:02:08] Peter Coming into somebody's home and seeing a beautiful table laid out is always, you know, with candles and everything is the best, but you don't have to go crazy. I love a table runner. You know, it sort of gives you the tablecloth effect but it's smaller, easier to manage than a full tableclath and flowers, keep it simple. I mean, I am a big fan of a bunch of bud vases that just going down the middle of the table. It makes you look like you're just a master florist when all you've done is maybe run to the deli. and take apart a bouquet and just put them in. It doesn't take that much. And I mean, for flowers, just make sure they're chin height s