Episode Details

Have you ever considered that all your relationships don't need to serve the same purpose? In this episode, we explore friendships, and dive into seven categories of connection that enrich our lives in different ways. 

We decided to reference ~ Lane Moore's book "You Will Find Your People," we unpacked how soul friendships, chosen family, long-distance connections, situational bonds, trauma-bonded relationships, surface-level interactions, and one-sided friendships each play unique roles in our social landscape. Rather than judging these varying depths of connection, we celebrate how each serves different needs at different times in our lives. It was refreshing to reference the book categories while also speaking about our own experiences. It definitely felt like a renewed celebration as we touched on some possibilities. 

Episode Highlights:

• Not every conversation needs to open the "back of our heart" or lead to transformation
• Soul friendships provide rare, deep connections where we feel truly seen and understood
• Having capacity for intimacy requires personal growth and emotional regulation
• Long-distance friendships thrive with technology but in-person time reveals new dimensions
• Situational friendships (like with coworkers) can be enjoyable and serve important purposes in our life
• Trauma bonding happens when connections form around shared difficulties rather than growth
• Surface-level friendships allow for light, enjoyable interactions without emotional investment
• One-sided friendships occur when effort is imbalanced, often requiring self-awareness
• Different friendship types serve different needs at different times in our lives
• The expectation that one person should fulfill all our needs is not only unrealistic it also leads to disappointment

We'd love to hear your experiences with different friendship categories. DM us or write a review on Apple!

P.S. As promised, here's a list of the 7 types of friendships we discuss in this episode:  For more details and insight, check out the book You Will Find Your People, by Lane Moore.

1. Surface-Level Friendships – These are casual acquaintances or people you interact with in social settings but don’t form deep connections with.
2. Situational Friendships – Friendships that arise due to shared circumstances, like coworkers, classmates, or neighbors. These connections may fade when the situation changes.
3. Trauma-Bonded Friendships – Relationships that form due to shared difficult experiences, where the bond is rooted more in mutual pain than in mutual growth.
4. One-Sided Friendships – Friendships where one person puts in significantly more effort than the other, often leading to feelings of imbalance or frustration.
5. Long-Distance Friendships – Friends who remain close despite physical distance, relying on texts, calls, or visits to maintain the bond.
6. Chosen Family – Deep, meaningful friendships that feel more like family, offering the emotional support and unconditional love that may be missing from biological family relationships.
7. Soul Friendships – Rare, deep connections where you feel truly seen, understood, and accepted for who you are. These friendships can be lifelong and transformative.

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