Episode Details

In this episode, Sam recalls the first time she felt imposter syndrome at work, which leads her into a deep dive. Why do we feel imposter syndrome? Can you feel imposter syndrome in your personal and romantic relationships? How can we overcome it? What could life look like if we don't—or if we do—overcome it? Then, she outlines actionable strategies for conquering it and taking back control of your life.

Listen to this episode if you've ever felt imposter syndrome, and share it with anyone who you think is selling themselves short.

Key moments:

01:52 What is imposter syndrome?

04:02 Why the first imposter syndrome research only studied women

04:37 A popular quote/statistic that really resonates

05:34 The first time Sam ever felt imposter syndrome

06:29 How Sam’s influencer career started

07:43 The most valuable thing Sam learned in the early days of becoming an influencer

09:38 How Sam started working for herself

11:48 Women feel imposter syndrome more than men

12:01 The social, cultural, and psychological factors that influence who experiences imposter syndrome

12:13 The types of people who are most likely to feel imposter syndrome

13:05 Why we have imposter syndrome

13:35 Are the stakes actually that high? Or are you projecting?

14:18 Feeling like you don’t belong

14:24 I AM CRYYYYIIINNNGGGGG LMAOOO

15:36 Reframing your thoughts (I ate with this tbh)

15:54 Perfectionism and imposter syndrome

16:47 Returning to the failure vs. judgment spiral

17:53 Masking behaviors and how they fuel imposter syndrome

18:48 Subjective fields of work (this is for the creatives)

19:42 Comparison is the thief of joy (sorry for the cliché)

20:27 Achievement-based validation in childhood

21:46 Imposter syndrome in your personal and romantic relationships (also see: anxious attachment style)

23:01 Catastrophizing and the imposter phenomenon

26:35 The impact imposter syndrome can have on our lives if it goes unchecked

28:44 How to overcome imposter syndrome

29:09 How to reframe your thoughts (with examples)

29:33 Stop saying “I got lucky” when you accomplish or achieve something

30:20 How to make a wins log (Sam reads hers aloud lol)

32:45 Flip the script (best possible outcome exercise)

34:06 A counterintuitive exercise (worst possible outcome exercise?)

35:51 Something all women need to start doing IMMEDIATELY

38:40 A mind-blowing twist on “feel the fear and do it anyway"

39:42 Act like an imposter to overcome imposter syndrome?

41:37 Distinguish between facts vs. feelings

43:40 The bottom line

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