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“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom."

I remember coming across this quote at Burning Man years ago. It's from writer and essayist Anais Nin.

It struck me then, and it reverberates for me still.

This photo was taken that year.

That sky is particularly specific to that time of evening, as the heat of the day dissolves into gorgeous blue & purple hues.

I remember my friends and I were stopped at an art piece, after gallivanting around the playa on our bikes, weaving in and out of the dust and denizens of Black Rock City.

That year was the Temple of Transition, and it was a threshold that changed everything.

It was then I learned of the role of grief and the necessity to come together in tending the endings that make us human.

It was then I recognized my marriage was over, even though it was another year before we parted ways.Recently I had the impulse to look up the words from Anais Nin, and discovered the rest of the quote:

"Life is a process of becoming, a combination of states we have to go through.

Where people fail is that they wish to elect a state and remain in it. This is a kind of death. Living never wore one out so much as the effort not to live. Life is truly known only to those who suffer, lose, endure adversity and stumble from defeat to defeat.

Perfection is static, and I am in full progress."

I love that. That a live worth living is not one of striving for success, but a willingness to fail again and again. This is how one comes to know life. To blossom is a risk. To expose your vulnerability, your authenticity and your creativity is to expose yourself rejection.

To dare to become. Somewhere in there, your soul comes alive.

This is the spirit of my upcoming Awakening the Wild Erotic, an ritual immersion for men release dysfunctional patterns around “eros,” the primal force of life, and step into a new phase of aliveness.

This will our 5th time running the event, and men have found the container incredibly valuable.

Upcoming AWE Dates:

April 4-6, 2025 Vancouver Island has a few spots left. (Last chance to apply now!)

We are also bringing AWE to the Montreal area July 25-27, 2025.

Get the full details and apply here.

Podcast Roundup

Over the last few months I’ve been featured in a number of great podcasts. I figured I’d round them up as a digest and share below.

The Authentic Man - Mythopoetic Masculinity and Navigating Conflict in Relationship

I really enjoyed this conversation with David Chambers, where we cover a number of topics, including: Domination vs. Partnership Culture, Reconditioning for Connection, Support systems for couples, Regenerating Culture, The Power of Deep Partnership, Understanding and Dealing with Jealousy, How to deal with conflict in a relationship

Evolving Man - Iron John And The Foundations Of Mythopoetic Masculinity

A solid conversation with my longtime friend Ben Goresky. In this episode, I share my journey into the mythopoetic men’s movement, which explores masculinity through myth, initiation, and men’s groups.

I open up