Episode Details

In this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Michelle Spexarth, a trauma-informed coach, about the pivotal moment when she realized she needed to stop seeking external validation and focus on her self-worth. Michelle opens up about her journey of self-discovery, influenced by the teachings of Dr. Wayne Dyer and Louise Hay, and shares actionable advice on how to reconnect with and value oneself.

Guest Information:

Michelle Spexarth is a trauma-informed coach specializing in helping individuals recover from narcissistic abuse and toxic relationships. She is dedicated to guiding others towards healing and self-discovery, helping them to own their actions and resilience. Michelle runs a free Facebook group called "Soul Survivors," where she conducts weekly classes.

Main Topics Covered:

• Michelle’s background and family life
• The catalyst moment that led to her journey of self-discovery
• The role of external validation in her life and the shift towards internal validation
• The impact of the teachings of Dr. Wayne Dyer, Louise Hay, and others
• Practices and techniques Michelle used to reconnect with herself
• The importance of owning one’s actions and choices
• Specific examples of how Michelle's perspective has changed through this journey

Quote from the Episode:

"Because I was just like this, I have got to find a place where I am not so vulnerable to others, also to where I feel okay within myself, no matter what’s going on outside of me." – Michelle Spexarth

Timestamps:

• 00:00:04
• – Introduction and welcome
• 00:00:28
• – Michelle shares her current location and weather in Kansas
• 00:00:45
• – Michelle's personal background and family details
• 00:03:22
• – Introduction to the topic: Seeking validation
• 00:03:44
• – Michelle’s realization journey about needing internal validation
• 00:05:02
• – The state of Michelle's life during the time she began this transition
• 00:07:00
• – The specific event with homeschool sports that triggered awareness
• 00:12:23
• – How Michelle felt and handled the situation at that time
• 00:13:44
• – Discussion on ways to own one's actions and control one's life
• 00:20:00
• – Tools and resources Michelle used for self-discovery
• 00:23:00
• – Practical exercises Michelle used to learn more about herself
• 00:26:27
• – Changes in perspective and handling situations today
• 00:30:10
• – Reflection if younger version of Michelle could have made this shift
• 00:34:05
• – Rapid fire questions
• 00:36:23
• – Closing remarks and final thank you

How to connect with Michelle Spexarth:

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/soulsurvivorshealing

Special offer from the show guest:

Course called Heal you, Heal Your Kids that is free when you use this link.

https://www.udemy.com/course/heal-you-heal-your-kids-breaking-the-cycle-of-abuse/?couponCode=7B85A974B5D61C2FE971

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