Episode Details

The mistake happens before the case even gets going. A parent decides they need to move, and they give the court the honest reason: to get away from a difficult ex. New York family lawyer Yoni Levoritz says that framing alone can end a relocation request, because it reads as an inability to support the child's relationship with the other parent.

Yoni Levoritz has practiced family law in New York since 2005, working out of Manhattan and across the boroughs, Westchester, and Long Island, and he handles complex matters rather than routine ones. He talks with Lisa about the two areas where getting the detail right early changes how the case goes later: how a relocation is argued, and what belongs in a parenting plan before anyone signs.

Yoni describes winning a relocation on appeal by setting the abuse arguments aside and building the case on the child's best interest and on the economics of an ex who paid no support. He and Lisa then go provision by provision through a parenting plan: a radius clause that most judges will honor even where it isn't strictly binding, therapy arranged while a child is young enough that it sticks, a secondary-education clause with a pro-rata split of the cost, and language that keeps a child's calls with the other parent private and unobserved. They also cover instant poverty syndrome, and how a vocational expert values what someone is capable of earning rather than what they happen to be earning during the divorce.

The listener questions land on enforcement, where plans usually break. Yoni favors counsel-fee awards so a violation costs something, argues for going straight back to court the first time visitation is blocked, and explains the right of first refusal and what to do when an ex ignores it repeatedly. Running underneath all of it is an idea Lisa took from him years ago: an abusive ex's anger, put in writing, can become the evidence that limits their access.

As always, this is strategic education, not legal or mental-health advice for your specific situation.

🎓 What you'll learn

• Why "I want to move away from my ex" can weaken a relocation case on its own
• How a denied relocation was won on appeal by arguing best interest and economics
• The parenting-plan provisions people forget: radius clause, therapy, college, private phone calls
• Why setting up a child's therapy early beats fighting for it once they are a teenager
• Instant poverty syndrome, and how a vocational expert values earning capacity over a bad year
• How counsel-fee awards create real consequences when an ex violates the plan
• Why blocking visitation even once can call for going straight back to court
• What a right of first refusal is, and what to do when it is repeatedly ignored

⏱️ Chapters
0:00 Intro
1:00 What a relocation is, and why distance isn't the whole story
3:00 The move-away mistake, and an appeal won on best interest
5:00 Your parenting plan as your constitution
7:00 Therapy provisions, and why early beats the teenage years
9:00 College and secondary-education clauses
13:00 Instant poverty syndrome and the vocational expert
17:00 "Their anger is your gold," and private phone calls
21:00 Enforcement: counsel fees and right of first refusal
25:00 Blocking visitation, sick kids, and health insurance
31:00 The radius clause, proving alienation, and finding Yoni

Keep going 💜
Book a free 30-minute discovery call and we'll help you map your next steps: https://beentheregotout.com/call
📘 Been There Got Out: Toxic Relationships, High-Conflict Divorce, and How to Stay Sane Under Insane Circumstances — https://www.amazon.com/dp/194627495X
📘 Been There Got Out: When Your Ex Turns the Kids Against You (our parental-alienation book) — https://www.amazon.com/dp/1967674183
🔗 Yoni Levoritz at The Levoritz Law