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The Dance Between Intimacy and Independence in Marriage by David and Constantino Khalaf of Gottman Institute
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Episode 2465:
David and Constantino Khalaf share their own experiences as an introverted couple navigating these differences, showing how open communication, trust, and small acts of kindness can help partners meet each other’s needs without resentment. By embracing their differences rather than resisting them, they’ve learned to strengthen their relationship and build a deeper emotional connection.
Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/dance-intimacy-independence-marriage/
Quotes to ponder:
“There are times when you feel drawn to your loved one and times when you feel the need to pull back and replenish your sense of autonomy.”
“If David ignores his need for independence, the abundance of intimacy begins to breed resentment.”
“Viewing it as a dance rather than a tug of war reminds us to collaborate to meet each other’s needs rather than fight to preserve our own.”
Episode references:
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0553447718
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