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In the face of emotional and psychological abuse, women often carry the burden of being the peacemaker. But what does Jesus say about abuse?
Matthew 5:25 is often quoted to manipulate women. But here’s what Jesus is really saying.
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What Does The Bible Say About People Who Are Abused?
Let’s take Matthew 5:25 – What does Jesus say about abuse? Jesus says, “Agree with thine adversary quickly, whiles thou art in the way with him; lest at any time the adversary deliver thee to the judge, and the judge deliver thee to the officer, and thou be cast into prison.”
If your husband is emotionally and psychologically abusive, rather than engage with the abuser, you can quickly and passively agree (if it’s safe to do so). Anne shares an example on the podcast:
“You can be a peacemaker and you can be safe with the strategy of agreement. Here are some examples. Let’s say your husband says something like, ‘Well, you don’t respect me and you never listen to me.’
Rather than diving into an argument or pulling out all the times where you did listen to him and how you do respect him, because you always ask his opinion before you spend more than $50 and all the reasons why you are a good person. You can say, ‘oh, that’s interesting; I haven’t thought of that.‘”
How To Agree With The Abuser 101
Best practice is to appear disinterested and apathetic. The abuser wants to create chaos. We want you to create distance between yourself and the abuse so that you can create safety for yourself. Here are some phrases (along with a disinterested, apathetic impression) to use when you’re “agreeing quickly” with the abuser:
- Huh, that’s interesting. I’ll look into it.
- I hadn’t really given that much thought – thanks.
- That may be true.
- Fair enough.
- Very interesting. I appreciate your thought.
- I will definitely give that more thought.
- That may be valid.
- All opinions are generally worth consideration.
- I will consider that.
- Yeah, you may be right.
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