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When a woman discovers her husband’s secret pornography use or infidelity, it’s devastating. Learning how to cope with betrayal trauma is a daily struggle. Here are 4 self care strategies for victims.

Loss, devastation, terror, fury, grief, numbness… are all manifestations of betrayal trauma, and each emotion can be debilitating. To discover if you’re emotionally abused, take our free emotional abuse quiz.

VIctims of betrayal can take small steps to begin practicing self-care, which is the only way to truly process and ultimately heal from betrayal trauma.

If you need support, attend a Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Session TODAY.

1. How To Cope With Betrayal Trauma: Pay Attention To Your Body’s Messages

2. Pick One Tiny Thing, And Do That Thing Everyday

3. Accept and Embrace The “Critical Systems Only” Phase When trying to CopE With Betrayal Trauma

4. Whatever Works To Help You Cope With Betrayal Trauma Is The Best Self Care For You

Coping With Betrayal Trauma Feels Wrong To Victims of Betrayal

Abusive men, including pornography users, condition victims to ignore their own needs. For many women, this means they don’t realize they actually cope with betrayal trauma the best way they can. And when they initiate self-care practices, they feel like they’re doing something wrong.

When victims of betrayal begin practicing self-care, they often feel:

• Guilt
• Shame
• Embarrassment
• Gluttonous
• Selfish
• Silly

Victims can become empowered by understanding that these negative emotions are a product of their abuser’s behavior – they are not reality. Self-care is not selfish and women who practice it are practicing self-love.

Coping With Betrayal Trauma Is A Process

Practicing self-care isn’t a destination, it’s a journey. Self-care needs may change over time. What women need now may be different several months or years into the healing process.

When women practice self-compassion and give themselves time to try new methods of self-care, they may find more freedom and joy in the process. As Anne explains:

How To Cope With Betrayal Trauma: 4 Things To Consider

Every victim’s self-care will be specific to her needs at any given time. Effective self-care is built on these four components:

1. Soothing
2. Nurturing
3. Discipline
4. Compassion

When women use these four components as a guide in their self-care decisions, they are better able to meet their own needs as they work through living with betrayal trauma.

Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Supports Victims of Betrayal

At BTR, we know how difficult it can be to implement self-care after discovering betrayal.

The intense and relentless emotional waves that seem to bury victims alive can be so overwhelming that self-care feels out of the question.

However, at BTR, we believe that self-care is the foundation for healing and thriving after betrayal and abuse.

Join today and make the Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group an integral piece of your self care.

Transcript: How To Cope With Betrayal Trauma

Anne: A member of our community is on today’s episode. We’re going to call her Tia. She let me know that she’s been listening