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Are you wondering how to heal from a divorce you didn’t want? If you’re trying to heal from a divorce you didn’t want, there is a community of women who understand. Attend a Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Session TODAY.

Many women in the Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Sessions mourn the loss of the life they hoped for and dreamed of. None of us got married, hoping to experience abuse and betrayal. And when abuse and betrayal were uncovered, most of us invested deeply in anything we could “save” the marriage. Often to the detriment of our own mental and physical health. It’s important to understand that divorce doesn’t end our marriage, abuse and betrayal ended our marriage.

Abuse conditions victims to put their own needs and desires at the bottom of every list. Often, women feel selfish and silly for prioritizing themselves in any capacity. Some may even feel fear for doing so. Choosing to prioritize yourself is a conscious decision that is both healthy and necessary to create and curate a beautiful life for yourself post-divorce. It takes practice and deliberate effort, but you can do it!

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“How Can I Do Any Of This When I Don’t Even Know Myself Anymore?”

Most women in the Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Sessions have expressed a loss of identity through their years of experiencing betrayal and abuse. The fear of building a new life without a firm grasp of your own identity is real and understandable. When you’re trying to heal from a divorce you didn’t want. You begin to remember and rebuild your identity when you reconnect with your value system. You can ask yourself questions like:

• What morals, values, and deep truths are most important to me?
• What values have I consistently thought back on, even if I have not been able to live up to them in moments of self-defense or protective action?
• And what values do I find most admirable in other people?

Examining and choosing your value system is a powerful way to ground yourself down in who you are. Divorce is one of the most difficult topics that we discuss in the Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Sessions, but it’s essential that women going through this process have a safe space to process their emotions and thoughts. Attend a Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Session TODAY and discover a community committed to helping you heal from a divorce you didn’t want.

Transcript: Heal From A Divorce You Didn’t Want

Anne: I have Ava on today’s episode. She went through her own divorce, and we’re going to talk about how to heal from a divorce you didn’t want. Welcome Ava.

Ava: Thank you. I appreciate you having me here. Most people I think heading into divorce would call it the worst time of their life. Just the amount of undoing and falling apart feels overwhelming. And then, sometimes a year later or years later, we will look back and see that what we went through shaped us in some