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Should couples stay together after infidelity? Here’s what some unfaithful husbands anonymously said. Their answers will shock you. Most unfaithful men use emotional abuse tactics to hide their infidelity. To discover if you’ve been experiencing any one of the 19 different types of emotional abuse, take our free emotional abuse test.

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Transcript: Should Couples Stay Together After Infidelity?

Anne: It’s just me today. If you’re wondering, should couples stay together after infidelity? As you’re considering this question. Should I stay or should I go? If you’ve listened to this podcast, you’re educated about emotional and psychological abuse. If you’ve enrolled in The Betrayal Trauma Recovery Living Free Workshop, you’ve been learning safety strategies.

Well, today I want to share with you what some men think of these concepts. These are men who ask the same question. Should I stay after I have cheated on my wife? They listened to this podcast or read the books I recommend. I don’t want them to listen to this podcast, I don’t want abusers listening. Don’t share this podcast with your husband, please, please, please.

Because your safety is my top priority, and it could put you in danger. So please do not do that. Do not share that you’re listening with them. But I can’t stop them from doing that. And then they either left a review on the podcast, or they left a review on Amazon, or they just wrote me an email. So I’m going to share with you their thoughts.

One guy wrote, I would like to take a moment to challenge your model. And then he’s extremely emotionally and psychologically abusive. He talks about how his ex-wife left him because of Betrayal Trauma Recovery. Basically, he was like, Betrayal Trauma Recovery told her it wasn’t a marital issue, that it was an abuse issue, and that he was the abuser.

Blame & Gaslighting

Anne: And then he goes on to say he’s not, that she’s the abuser. He blamed her for the emotional abuse. She’s the one abusing him. Because this is why I don’t want you to give this podcast to your abuser. Then he uses all the language we use in the podcast to be emotionally abusive to her. He said, I wouldn’t tolerate the gaslighting, the blame shifting, and me being responsible for her reactions to “fair questions.” And then he said his wife is a diagnosed narcissist. And that we didn’t figure it out.

And he’s now trying to prove to me that she’s the one sick and that we ruined their marriage. Now this is interesting. If he listened to Betrayal Trauma Recovery, learned about abuse, and his wife was an actual diagnosed narcissist. This is rare for a narcissist to actually be diagnosed, because they resist going in for a diagnosis. But let’s just say that this is the case. Let’s ta