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Have you ever asked, “Is it wrong if I want to leave my emotionally abusive husband?” Here are some things to consider.

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1. What would you tell someone else if they asked?

Pretend like you’re having a conversation with someone else. Listen to your own story as if you’re someone else. What would you say to this “other” person? Would she be wrong for wanting to leave an emotionally abusive husband?

2. What would a domestic abuse expert say?

Since most therapists, clergy, and almost everybody else doesn’t understand the ins and outs of domestic abuse. Especially when it comes to emotional and psychological abuse, they’re not the right people to ask whether your desire to leave your emotionally abusive husband is appropriate.

Anne Blythe, M.Ed, Producer & Host of the Betrayal Trauma Recovery Podcast helps women assess their level of emotional safety everyday. At Betrayal Trauma Recovery, emotional safety is the top priority. So rather than asking yourself if it’s wrong to leave or even if you should leave. The team at Betrayal Trauma Recovery will support you in your journey to discover what it means to be emotionally safe. And to take steps to become emotionally safe, in whatever way works for you.

3. Who told you it’s wrong to leave an emotionally abusive husband?

If you’re wondering if it’s wrong to leave an emotionally abusive husband, consider why you’re even asking this question in the first place. Does the question even make sense? Who has told you or where have you picked up the idea that it could be wrong to leave an emotionally abusive relationship?

Anne wrote The Betrayal Trauma Recovery Meditations so that women can look inside themselves to sort out their own thoughts. And separate from the society scripting in their heads to determine what is the best course of action. Start listening to your intuition, rather than people who don’t understand what it’s like to live in your situation.

4. Consider asking, “How do I establish emotional safety?” Instead of, “Can I get to emotional safety?”

One thing’s for sure, all women can get to emotional safety. So it’s imp