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Are you losing sleep worrying, “How do narcissists treat their children after divorce?” Here’s 5 ways to protect your child from the toxic influence of a narcissistic father.

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5 Ways To Help The Child Of A Narcissist:

1. Learn why the narcissist does what he does.
2. Invite people into your circle who can support your children.
3. Learn how to use effective strategies and boundaries.
4. Knowing that not having contact with an abuser is best.
5. Create peace inside of yourself.

Transcript: How Do Narcissists Treat Their Children After Divorce?

Anne: I have a member of our community on today’s episode, we’re going to call her Rose. She reached out to me and wanted to know how narcissism affects children. So I invited her to come on the podcast and share her story. As she shares her story, I’m going to point out five ways to help the child of a narcissist.

Welcome Rose.

Rose: Thank you. I’m so happy to be here today.

Anne: We’re grateful that you would take the time to reach out.

First Way To Help The Child Of A Narcissist: Learn Why The Narcissist Does What He Does.

Anne: So Rose, before you understood that your husband and then ex was a narcissist. What was going on in your home and with your kids?

Rose: To start the story, I probably should have never married him in the first place. Unfortunately, I met him when I was 18, so I didn’t know anything about narcissistic people. He broke up with me a lot of times while we were dating. And I’m not sure why I stayed with him. I think I’m sort of a helping type personality. So I guess I felt like I could fix him or change him so that he treated people with kindness and respect.

Anne: That’s so common for victims of narcissistic abuse, because narcissists groom victims so well they don’t understand what’s going on.

So that is the first way to help the child of a narcissist: To learn why the narcissist does what he does.

That’s why I wrote the Betrayal Trauma Recovery Workshop to explain in detail. Why the narcissist does what he does. Often people think the solution is just getting to know them better and spending more time. While you’re dating, but narcissists are so good at manipulation and hiding who they are. That women can even be married to a narcissistic husband for 5, 10, 15, even 40 years, and not recognize what they’re looking at.

If they don’t know what to look for. So that’s the first way. Learn about why narcissists do what they do.

Rose’s Marriage & Realizations

Anne: Rose, in your case, can you talk about how long you were with him before you marry and the length of your marriage? And what behaviors tipped you off that something was