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I realized a week or two ago that I completely forgot to post the responses to the question for February and March.  I think this was due to a mix of January having so many I had to split it into three posts, and then my sermon which took a lot of extra time.  So, while I had written responses quite a while ago, I never got around to recording a podcast, or posting them.



So, here they are, a few months late.  Today I’m addressing the follow questions from our Have A Question page:




* Is doggy style demeaning?



* Does anal sex always cause bleeding?



* How to start talking about sex with a sensitive wife?



* Can you have sex with an unsaved spouse?



* How to handle a wife orgasming too quickly



* Mutual Masturbation



* Swallowing your own semen



* Can you be married to the wrong person?



* Is sexlessness being unfaithful?



* Ethical porn




Question 1: Is doggy style demeaning?




My wife and I have been married for 9 years. My wife refuses to have sex in the doggy style position. I think the position is really sexy and I would love to make it part of our love making, but she is adamant about not wanting to do anything with it. I tried talking to her about it and she said she thinks that doggy style is inherently sexist and demeaning towards women and she told me that she does not want to be objectified like that. I am not sure what I can do, but I would really like to change her mind.




I completely understand wanting to explore new things, and I get it’s frustrating when the one person you can explore them with isn’t interested in that exploration.



I’d suggest trying to find something else that she’s not quite so adamantly against.  It’s possible that when you explore some other things that aren’t so far outside of her comfort zone that she may open up to others.  My wife was dead-set against some things we do fairly regularly now.  But, it didn’t happen by me harping on those activities.  Rather, it was me accepting it and letting it go and trying something else that seemed to lead back around to them.



The activities I bring up too often, well, they’re still on the shelf, and if I was a wiser man, I would leave them on the shelf for the next decade before trying to dust them off again.







Something you can try is going through something like Our Sexploration List, which might help point out some activities you both find mutually interesting.



Question 2: Does anal sex always cause bleeding?




Someone recently told me that the reason anal sex is so risky for STD transmission is because the person receiving usually bleeds– a little or a lot– and that it’s u...